Q: What’s the most important thing you wish that people knew?
A: Well, people need to know what they think they need to know, but if I were to WISH what everyone could know, it would be that love is everything. It’s the only thing that matters at the end of the day or at the end of your life. It’s what keeps us all waking up in the morning. It’s what gets us through the tough times. It’s what helps us up when we’re down, helps us heal when we’re sick. It keeps us healthy and strong. It expands us into knowing there’s something beyond just ourselves. It encourages us, supports us, inspires us, strengthens us.
A while ago I pondered (yet again) the concept of God. When I was younger, God was an old man with a long white beard that sat on a big white throne somewhere out there. But at least He was kind and very loving. I got that right.
But then that image morphed into more of a Thing, not a human and certainly not a man – no, it was a ‘something’ that loved us and wanted the best for us, but it was still some THING out there.
My most recent discovery in this quest for understanding has the whole thing boiled down to three very simple words: God is Love. It’s in the Bible, yes it is, but I think you’ll also find some variation of that concept in every major religion in the world, down throughout the ages.
It’s nothing new, but for me that discovery was very powerful. Now God is no longer something outside of myself and separate. It isn’t found “out there.” If God is love, that animating force that created everything there is, and keeps everything growing and going, then God/Love is everywhere and found in everything.
There’s no more separation – I like that idea.
“But what about all the bad guys?” you might ask. “They certainly aren’t Love.”
And I will say that I think we’re all part of one Body, so even if you think feet are stinky, they’re still a necessary part of the whole Body, aren’t they? They maybe just need washing and some understanding and some TLC. They may have gotten hurt, and are now causing a stink in your life, but that doesn’t necessarily mean they’re bad, does it?
A wish that goes along with my first wish –- I also wish that people could understand that we’re all connected -– we all come from the same place, and what you do to others you do to yourself, and we could all do with a little more compassion and understanding from each other. We’re all doing the best we can.
I understand, however, that I may be a bit simplistic about the whole bad guy thing, because if somebody ever hurt any of my children, I think I’d have a very difficult time believing that we were connected and that the hurters were just misunderstood. I understand my humanity and shortcomings, yet at the heart of it all, I DO believe that we are all connected, even if I don’t understand everything that happens down here.
I don’t remember too much from my college psychology course, but one experiment that does stay with me is the experiment of taking baby monkeys and separating them from their mothers. When offered either the choice of a chicken wire mother statue holding a bottle of milk, or a towel-covered chicken wire mother, they chose the softer towel-covered mother—warmth and potential tenderness over sustenance. It was creepy and mean that they did that to the poor monkeys, but interesting how powerful that need for companionship, touching, love and tenderness is, even in the animal world.
Can’t you feel it? When someone you love hugs you or even just touches you, can’t you feel that energy? When you look at someone you love, or even think about them, can’t you notice a change in your body? You probably get warm in your heart or stomach. There’s a physiological change that takes place. I call it a high frequency energy, or love that’s running through you, and that’s really an important and necessary thing.
We can send love through our thoughts, or through touch. We can show love by being considerate and respectful of others, when we smile or nod our heads, when we laugh, when we’re doing something that makes us or others happy, when we’re helping out.
We can make the world a better place, but it takes each one of us being committed to being as loving as possible, in every moment of our days. It takes patience and perseverance. It takes coming back to it, day after day, even when we’re tired and just want to be crabby. It takes gentleness and willingness to do something new –- to be quiet when we want to talk, to hug when we want to walk away, to listen when we want to be listened to, to be still when we want to move.
Love is active, it’s dynamic and energetic and very, very powerful. It’s not to be taken lightly or underestimated. Once accepted, it is guaranteed to change your life.
One of my favorite quotes that I return to again and again is from I Corinthians. In my opinion this stands as one of the best all-time quotations found anywhere.
“Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails… But now faith, hope, love, abide these three; but the greatest of these is love.”
And I couldn’t have said it any better myself, so I leave you with that. Happy Valentine’s Day, everyone. Love, Susie.
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