Q: When should you not consult an intuitive?
A: In the broadest sense you should always be consulting an intuitive — yourself. But I think your question has to do with talking to a reputable intuitive that’s been doing her work for a while. As I’ve stated before (and I’ll state again), you have to be on the lookout for “fake” psychics who are only in it for your money. They will scare you into forking over thousands of dollars so they can “fix” you and your life.
This relates to my first piece of advice: Don’t consult an intuitive if you’re panicking over a certain situation and are scared and looking for a specific answer. This energy serves to disconnect you from your own knowing and will make you more vulnerable to these scam artists. As long as you are tuned in to your own life and knowingness, I think it’s great to get another viewpoint from time to time. But (and that’s a big but) not if you’re giving them all of your power, convinced that somebody knows more about you and your situation than you do. Nobody, I repeat, nobody, knows more about you than you. Period.
I’m used to following my intuition; I’ve been doing it for quite a while. But sometimes I may be too close to a situation (especially if it involves my family), so another viewpoint can be helpful. There are only a handful of people in my life that I resonate enough with to trust their insight. That is another helpful piece of advice: Make sure you resonate with an intuitive before you believe her information.
I’ve heard people tell me that they went to a psychic and paid hundreds of dollars for a reading when even before they went in they had an icky feeling in their stomachs and thought maybe they shouldn’t go. I ask them, “Why didn’t you listen to your intuition?” They tell me, “Because this person said they had done readings for presidents and famous people, so I thought they must be good. Besides, they charge $500 a session. That means they’re really good, right?”
Just because an intuitive tells you she’s good and tells you who her clientele is (which, by the way, is a huge no-no in my world; complete confidentiality for clients is a must) and charges an exorbitant fee doesn’t mean she’s worth it. It may just mean she’s slick at business dealings and sales and are more interested in fame and money than in doing an honorable job of helping others.
Here’s my advice when considering whether or not a trip to an intuitive is right for you. Have you tried tuning in and getting the answers yourself first? If not, here’s something you can try. Go someplace quiet, get comfortable, close your eyes and take a deep breath (I know, I’m a broken record on this, but it’s always solid advice). Let the troubles of the day drop away. Just sit with yourself until you feel centered and calm.
Now ask the question you would ask an intuitive and pay close attention to what’s going on. Are you feeling something different, hearing something, seeing something, sensing something out of the ordinary for you? If so, what would your answer be? If you don’t get anything that way, try asking your question right before you go to bed, and see if your answer or clarity comes to you through a dream.
Or, try posing your question at the beginning of your day, and vow to watch for an answer throughout the day. It may come from someone else or in a book that you see, a song that plays on the radio or on a billboard or bumper sticker. Just intend to find your answer and see if anything strikes you as affirming.
If those three things don’t work, then ask around. Have your friends seen anyone that they trust and think is honorable and has integrity? There are neon signs up around town advertising psychics, but that may or may not be a good choice. I’ve gotten almost 100 percent of my clientele through word of mouth. That’s a good sign.
Before you make an appointment, see if the intuitive will talk to you a little bit about her background and philosophy. Ask yourself how you feel as she’s speaking with you, if you feel comfortable and reassured or shaky and unsure. Trust your gut. Always. It cannot lie to you. Check out her website if she has one, or even ask for references, if that’s a possibility.
A good intuitive has nothing to hide. It’s also nice if she’s been in the area longer than a few weeks or months. I’m always suspicious of fly-by-night intuitives because it doesn’t seem like they’re here long enough to establish a track record, so getting word-of-mouth reports may be hard to find.
If you think that your husband’s cheating on you, or that your daughter is pregnant, or if you want winning lottery numbers, I would NOT see an intuitive for any of those things. Check your motives. Prying into other people’s lives or cheating for material gain are big karmic no-nos, and no legitimate intuitive should ever help you do that.
However, if you are in the middle of a crisis and are feeling confused or overwhelmed, a good intuitive should be able to give you some clarity and a higher perspective on things so you can make some positive changes. She can help ease your fears by helping you become empowered. If you are feeling some angst around work, or family, or just want overall help on understanding the way you operate, an honest intuitive should be able to offer up some ideas on what you might do to improve your situations. An intuitive can only offer up her opinion based on what she’s seeing for you. What you do with your life and an intuitive’s information is up to you.
Nobody can fix you, so if that’s what you’re hoping for, a good intuitive isn’t for you. We are each responsible for our own lives, but if you need a little help and support, an ethical intuitive is always a good option. I’m aware that intuitives sometimes get a bad rap, but if you trust your intuition and find a really good one (and there are some really good ones out there), it is a very sacred and spiritual thing she is doing for you, helping you in one of the best ways possible. Soul to soul. And that is always a very good thing.
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